What to say when she asks "what are you looking for?"
Verdict first
Answer honestly and specifically. "Just seeing where it goes" sounds like you have no plan or are hiding one. Say what you want, then hand the question back.
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Answers that work
Clear, confident, no pressure on her:
What not to say
"Whatever happens", "just seeing where it goes", or a long list of requirements. The first two dodge the question; the last one turns a date into an interview.
Why honesty wins
If you want different things, you both save weeks. If you want the same thing, saying it out loud is attractive.
Verdict
Say what you want. Then ask what she wants.
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